10 Ways To Bless Your Husband That Have A Big Impact

November 17, 2025

I don’t know about you friend, but I want to seek out big and little ways that I can bless my husband day after day. I want to be a blessing to him and our marriage, and have him delighted to spend time with me. I want our marriage relationship to grow and flourish through the seasons and years, and I know that I play a big part in that. I believe the things in this list would be received well with most men, but there is always the exception. I encourage you to evaluate your husband’s personal love languages, and to pray about how you can bless him in that. And if you don’t know the answer, it’s more than okay to go to the source himself and ask your husband what makes him feel loved, valued, noticed, respected, appreciated, or supported. It’s worth asking, knowing the answer, and going from there confident that you are truly blessing your husband with the things that make him feel loved and honored.

“A wife of noble character who can find?

    She is worth far more than rubies.

Her husband has full confidence in her

    and lacks nothing of value.

She brings him good, not harm,

    all the days of her life.”

Proverbs 31:10-12

Now, what if you’re the woman who feels that her husband is undeserving of her effort to bless him? Do you feel that you don’t want to start giving your all until your husband shows some effort towards loving you? Do you feel that it would be unfair to not have the same effort reciprocated? Well, friend, you may not like this answer, but you must lay all of those bitter feelings and resentment aside, and fulfill your role as a wife no matter your husband’s fulfillment of his or lack thereof. This is easier said than done of course. I encourage you to pray about your situation and your own heart, and to view blessing your husband and being a good wife as your service to God before anyone else. God’s Word is teeming with words to wives on how they ought to behave and view their husbands, and there isn’t an exception for a woman who thinks her husband is doing a lousy job on his end. Of course there is a different exception and measures to be taken if you’re in an abusive relationship or your husband is unfaithful. But for the majority of us women, we may be married to a man that is either trying to fulfill his God given duty or is just neglectful of it altogether. However, in either case, we are still called to be a wife that respects, honors, loves, and submits to her husband regardless of his efforts to love, cherish, and lay down his life for us. Our efforts to bless our husband are certainly not in vain. Listen to 1 Peter 3:1-2:

Let this verse be an encouragement to you that you are not profitless or ineffective when fulfilling your God given role as a wife. We can have a positive impact on our husband’s walk with the Lord by being a godly wife towards him. 1 Corinthians 15:58 encourages us, “Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.” If we are truly working unto the Lord, then our efforts are of eternal value and will not be wasted. This is certainly true in our marriages. Now for a second let’s say your husband all of a sudden had a heart change and started coming home from work wanting to spend time with you, buying you flowers, complimenting you, asking how he can help you with your workload or with the kids, planned dates with you, and took up responsibility to get things done around the house. Would you not be deeply moved, encouraged, inspired, or even convicted to begin making a change in yourself and your efforts? Wouldn’t it be easier for you to show love to your husband because of how abundantly loved you were feeling by him? Well, friend, this goes both ways. It takes more selflessness, patience, and effort on the end of whoever begins the change, but we can be the driving force to transform our marriage. If you can lay aside your selfish and pitiful feelings and begin making tangible changes on your end of things, then maybe you won’t need to dwell so much on the things you wish would change about your husband and your marriage. I don’t say any of this to condemn you or make you feel that you’re of less value than your husband. I just want husbands and wives to have flourishing marriages focused on living for God and serving one another. The change starts with you!

Without further ado, here is my list of 10 little ways you can bless your husband that have a big impact:

1. Greet him at the door. There is no simpler way to show you love someone than by being excited to see them. My husband loves when I greet him at the door with a hug and a kiss after a long day at work. This shows that I appreciate him and am excited to spend my evening with him, which I certainly am. It’s good to set the tone by greeting your husband with a joyful smile, despite how you may feel or how hard your day has been. 

2. Leave your husband love notes around the house or in his lunch box. I love receiving little notes, but I also love giving them. I love seeing my husband keep all the notes I’ve written to him, and he lets me know how much he appreciates them. This is a small way to bless your husband when he wakes up early in the morning or while he’s at work. I prefer handwritten notes, but a thoughtful text always does the trick too. You can keep it short and sweet by saying “I love you”, “I can’t wait to see you later”, or “thank you for everything you do”. Or you can write out a longer message for him to read. Get creative, he will appreciate that you’re thinking of him.

3. Cook his favorite meal or dessert and say you made a surprise for him. I feel like every husband has a separate love tank that is fueled by yummy home cooked meals. It’s also so connecting to sit down and share a meal together around the table. 

4. Plan a date or outing. Sometimes we can feel like planning dates and outings is just for the man to do. Us gals just love being thought of and prioritized, but our husbands do too whether they say it or not. Plus, men aren’t always the best at thinking of these little gestures. Get creative, and plan something the two of you can go do together, or even take your kids. Maybe this could even be something you know your husband loves to do and would bless him greatly. Try a sports game, favorite restaurant, bowling alley, movie theater, a seasonal date, hike, or maybe an activity the two of you love doing together. The possibilities are really endless here. The point is that planning a date shows how much you care to have quality time with your husband.

5. Have sex. Intimacy is part of God’s perfect design for a man and woman united in marriage. It also fulfills a basic need of your man who has a stronger desire for this connection. Make time for being romantic with your husband, and try often to be available and open. Save energy to put into this time because it is a key aspect of marriage. Being intimate is bonding and should be prioritized for a husband and wife. This is a big way you can bless your husband, it just is what it is. 

6. Ask, “How can I bless you?” It can be a blessing to your husband just to have you plainly ask how you can bless him or if you can help him in any way. Afterall, us wives are called to be a helper to our husband, so we should be looking for ways to fulfill that duty. Maybe he could use our help with a practical thing like a house project, ironing his shirt, running a letter to the post office, etc. Or maybe he has something long term in mind that would bless him such as budgeting, having dinner ready at a certain time, being more intimate, starting or stopping a habit, etc. The list goes on and on, and there really are no wrong answers. See what your husband has to say, or maybe you already know without even having to ask. Whatever the case may be, try to be understanding and cheerful in blessing him.

7. Pack his lunch for work. If your husband works away from home all day, you can truly bless him by packing his lunch the night before or the morning of. This lets him know you’re thinking of him and you care about meeting his basic needs. You could even meal prep for him if that would be of interest. Often, packing our husbands lunch for him results in a healthier, more well-proportioned meal than he would think to pack for himself. So it’s a blessing to his health as well.

8. Express your gratitude. Husbands need to feel honored and respected. Saying thank you more often and praising the things you admire, appreciate, and notice about him will truly bless him and make him feel like more of a man. I’d say this practice of finding the things you admire about him is also the most effective in inspiring him to be more of the man that you think and say he is. He will want to continue growing with you by his side cheering him on. It’s a win win! 

9. Talk highly of him around others. This is a practice my husband and I have both made a point since before we got married. Gossiping about your husband to your friends or coworkers does nothing positive for your marriage or his trust in you. Oftentimes, women talk negatively about their husbands all in the name of “seeking advice”, “being relatable”, “getting something off their chest”, or “just being funny”. Now, if you have true problems in your marriage that need working through, there are biblical guidelines for addressing these that involve your church, but never gossiping. There are no good excuses to slander your husband’s name and make others view him negatively. You bless your husband greatly when you lift him up, praise him, and show respect to him whether you’re together or not. And when you’re with your husband in a public setting, try looking at him while he’s speaking, nodding to what he’s saying, and giving him a smile as he speaks. Men don’t want to be interrupted, contradicted, corrected, or ridiculed. Try to make an effort in this area and you will not only gain appreciation from your husband, but respect from your friends and family towards your marriage.

10. Pray for your husband. This is probably the biggest way that you can ever bless your husband. Thank God for your husband, and pray for the Lord to grant him guidance, strength, wisdom, health, purity, etc. Pray also that the Lord grant you love, respect, and the fruits of the Spirit each day to be a fruitful wife that is a blessing to your marriage. Pray Scripture over him if you need ideas of what to pray. There are verses all over the Bible that are mighty and effective prayers. You don’t always feel like you’re taking action by praying, but it is revolutionary to seek the Lord and wait for Him. Take your cares and worries, no matter how big or small, to the Lord and watch Him work. You can change your husband’s life and your marriage through this one act of obedience. 

Well friend, I hope this list of ways to bless your husband inspires you and has helped you gain ideas for ways that you can tangibly show respect, honor, thoughtfulness, and love towards your man. Again, ask your husband what blesses him and diligently seek out ways to be a virtuous and helpful wife day in and day out. Never do these things out of spite, and don’t get discouraged if your efforts go unnoticed or aren’t received well at first. Ultimately, it is the Lord you are serving.