Motherhood: Embracing Your New Reality

August 17th, 2025

Becoming a mother flips your whole world upside down. What used to work, doesn’t anymore. What used to be your routine, isn’t anymore. What used to occupy your time, can’t anymore. So many things have changed, and yet it is a glorious and worthwhile change. You must submit to and embrace this new reality to have it become all that it is intended to be. 

I remember having so many epiphanies that life doesn’t look the same anymore after having my daughter. I couldn’t just leave the house any time of the day. I couldn’t attend activities or events that went after 8 pm. I couldn't spend a whole day away somewhere. There are things you just can’t do anymore that used to be part of normal, everyday life. This can be hard to accept. I mean let’s face it, you’ve lived a certain way for probably 2 decades or more, and now, just now, everything looks different for you. Not to mention, we are selfish individuals, and it takes the utmost selflessness to put a baby so needy and dependent above yourself. So how do you begin to embrace this new reality of motherhood that you have entered into?

1st: Have the correct outlook!

I believe it is crucial to have the correct view towards your new life as a mom. Don’t have the woe is me mindset and live in a constant pity party. This will not help you thrive in motherhood. Daily routines will look different, you will not have the same freedoms, your patience will be tried, and you will encounter sleepless nights and daily trials. But you do not labor in vain, for there is meaning and fulfillment to be found in the role of mother. Don’t forget the timely truth, that children are a blessing as Scripture puts it so beautifully.

"Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward." Psalm 127:3

We constantly need to be reminding ourselves of the wondrous gift that a baby is to our lives. They are a heritage to be celebrated. I cannot imagine my life without my daughter, and I’m sure most mom’s would agree in a positive way. We have a new meaning and purpose in life, in addition to bringing glory to God. But what a powerful way to do just that! There is no greater work, nothing more worth our time and efforts, than raising up the next generation of children that know and love the Lord. 

2nd: Be filled with the Holy Spirit!

We need to better take advantage of the power we have from the Holy Spirit indwelling us as believers. I remember as a new mom, I prayed for supernatural patience everyday. I really struggled with hearing my colicky daughter cry and cry, I just wanted her to nap, and I felt like I couldn't catch a break. There were times that I cried with her, I envied my husband being away at work, and I thought nothing would ever change. I was so selfish. I so badly wanted to be a more godly mother though, and I knew this was the life that I had always dreamt of. So I kept that prayer close to my heart, and I counted my blessings. And little by little, I began to see God working on my heart. I was being transformed and sanctified, even if it was a little uncomfortable at times. And now I feel like God has empowered me to find consistent joy and even forbearance in the difficult times. Of course my daughter has gotten older, she is less dependent, and I have grown accustomed to my new routines and rhythms, but I wholeheartedly believe that I am where I am because God has shown me how to embrace motherhood as He designed it to be. Friend, we need to be filled with the Holy Spirit to be the mom that God has called us to be. Be in constant prayer, get in His Word daily, count the blessings He has so graciously lavished on you in bearing and raising children, and you will find the joy and purpose He has awaiting you as a mother.

3rd: Have variety and have fun!

There is a difference between enduring each day as a mom, just going through the motions, and actually enjoying motherhood. I prefer the latter experience. As a new mom, it can be life changing to just add something simple each day to shake things up. I honestly remember feeling like I did so much in a day if I would just walk around the neighborhood, bake something quick, or call my parents. A small thing can make a big difference! I have found that babies thrive on routine, and they function better knowing what to expect. But momma, it’s okay and good for our babies (AND US) to find time to incorporate fun and new experiences. There are so many fun things I do with my daughter that give the day variety and simple excitement: taking walks, going to the park to eat our lunch, driving over to a friend’s house for a play date, shopping at a thrift store, running errands together, or swinging outside on our front porch or sitting on a blanket in our backyard. There are new locations and environments to explore, and plus it’s just so fun to tote around a cute little one with you and make everyone’s day. These new experiences are a learning opportunity for your little one and a blessing to you. Don’t neglect finding enjoyment in the little things.

4th: Make mom friends!

Having friends that are also stay at home moms has changed my life and experience as a mother. I cannot stress enough the importance of having a community of moms to walk through motherhood alongside. We are never supposed to walk through our different seasons of life alone. You are blessed to have your husband or family members, but there is also comfort and camaraderie to be found in other mom-friends in the same life stage as you. You must put in the time and effort to find these women. And if you didn’t go into motherhood with other pregnant ladies, or all your friends are in your previous life stage, it is never too late to find some moms to befriend. They are everywhere. Try looking at church or at the local park. It is much easier to strike up a conversation now that you’re a mom. There is just so much to talk about. Or perhaps look into and join your church’s mom group. Us moms need to band together. My mom-friends and I hangout at least once a week, and I always look forward to our time together. My daughter loves playing with her little friends the same age as her, and I have a blast talking to my friends about motherhood, hobbies, faith, and life in general. Having mom-friends gives you women to share ideas and hacks with, gain advice from when you’re going through a tough season, be a listening ear and understand what you’re going through, hangout with in the middle of a weekday when everyone else is busy, and encourage one another when things get tough. Friends are LIFE-GIVING. I want you to find one, two, or several other moms that you can consistently get together with, grow with, and experience motherhood alongside. You won’t regret it.

Those are my four pieces of advice for embracing your new reality as a mother, and falling in love with the new normal. I have never experienced a greater purpose or more meaningful role than being a momma. Not to say it doesn’t have its ups and downs, its moments of feeling inadequate, or times when you feel stuck or discouraged. But, it is a role that promises to grow you and shape you into exactly the person God desires you to be, if you will let it. Because it's true, life just doesn’t look the same after becoming a mom, but from the inside out, neither do you.

I’m glad you’re here, friend!