My Advice To Aspiring Wives, Mothers, And Homemakers

December 3, 2025

I feel that so much could be said surrounding this topic, and perhaps I would give slightly different advice 20 or 30 years from now. I’m currently 24 years old, but I believe that once you’re through a season, you are more ready and qualified to speak to others who are experiencing the life stage that you previously walked through. I don’t claim to have all the wisdom, but I was once a single gal who longed to be a wife, mom, and homemaker, and now God has blessed me by fulfilling that longing. Here I am, having learned quite a lot in my 2 years of marriage. This post is my personal letter to you young ladies who hold the desire in your heart to one day be a wife, mother, and homemaker. I pray this inspires you to become the woman God has designed you to be, and encourages you to continue faithfully walking the path God has laid out for you, whatever that may look like.

I believe the desire to be married and be a stay at home mom was instilled in my heart as a young girl, but became a prominent thought of mine once I began college. I wasn’t particularly interested in pursuing any degree, and I had no idea what career I wanted, mainly because I didn’t want one in the first place. I remember thinking, “I just want to be married and have kids.” Perhaps you’ve had the same thought. I ended up dropping out of college (long story), and as I worked as a waitress, I experienced God answering my prayers as I got engaged to my boyfriend shortly after. We got married in 2023, and we had our first baby girl 2 days after our 1 year anniversary. I worked part-time jobs up until giving birth, but I have now been a full-time wife, mom, and homemaker for over a year. I love it, and I thank God that He has given me these roles to live out, grow in, and cherish.

Since you’re reading this post, I’m sure you have similar desires to be married, bear children, and tend a home. These are good aspirations! I believe that God created us women with these natural desires and tendencies. Instead of fighting these inclinations or sitting idly while you wait for your dreams to come to fruition, I urge you to grow in these areas, prepare yourself, and develop helpful talents and abilities that will equip you and serve your future family. Now, it is true that most things just can’t be mastered until you dive in and experience it for yourself. I would say it is this way with marriage and motherhood. You can do what you can to equip yourself, but you won’t be fully ready before you experience it. That being said, there are useful ways to prepare to be a wife, mother, and homemaker, so I will tackle each life stage at a time.  Let’s dive on in!

• Wife: There is much you can and should do to prepare yourself to be a wife. Nothing reveals your sinful nature quite like being married. Your single years are the best time to prepare for what lies ahead of you in marriage. 

  • Study God’s Word and cultivate your relationship with Him. Memorize Scripture and strive to live it out. Prioritize prayer and communication with God. Join a women’s Bible study where you’re in fellowship with other believers. Maybe seek out a mentor or discipler who challenges you to grow. Your relationship with God should still be your top priority once you’re married. Your marriage will thrive if your identity and worth are found in Christ alone.

  • Read Christian books on marriage and wifehood. Reading these types of books are convicting and teach you about your role as a wife, how to come alongside your husband, and how to have a blessed marriage. Reading up on these topics will help you know what is ahead of you and give you a vision for the woman you want to be. Of course, the Bible is the main source to seek out and learn from. God is not silent on what makes a wonderful wife and what He created her role to be in the marriage union. The other books I’ve personally read and gleaned knowledge from are listed on our website under the “books to read” tab. Check it out here: https://www.growingasafamily.com/podcasts 

  • Cultivate the fruits of the Spirit in your life. Memorize them, pray for them, and practice growing in each one. You will be a better wife if you learn to be a loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, and self-controlled woman. Study the fruits of the Spirit in Galatians 5.

  • Invest time and effort into your physical and mental health. Seek to be an attractive, healthy, fit, sound, and capable woman. Take care of yourself and move your body.

  • Invest time into the people in your life. Make plans and get together often with family, friends, coworkers, acquaintances, etc. Don’t isolate yourself and neglect practicing having real relationship and communication. Being a good friend will translate into being a good wife one day. Plus, you’re more likely to meet somebody when you’re interacting with others and putting yourself out there. 

• Mother: There is nothing more wonderful and equally difficult as becoming a mother. Your patience will be tried. Anxious thoughts wage war in your mind. Your selfishness is revealed yet again. And yet, it is the most incredible undertaking and most meaningful endeavor you will ever pursue. Oh, how I love being a mother!

  • Be around children and babies if possible. Ideally you would have children in your family or circle of friends. But if not, consider babysitting, nannying, or volunteering at your church’s youth group or in the nursery. It is so helpful to be around children before having your own.

  • Read up on books concerning motherhood and the raising of children. Of course these should be books by authors that know and follow the Lord. Learn about fertility, pregnancy, birth, and God’s miraculous design of the female body. Read stories and articles that positively speak about children. Don’t listen to the lies of the world that tell you children steal your joy, take up all your time, drain all your finances, etc. Children are a blessing from the Lord, and the Bible only speaks highly of children; therefore, we should only think highly of them.

  • Seek to grow in the fruits of the Spirit and cultivate a robust prayer life. Praying without ceasing becomes more real when you’re a mother, and you will benefit from learning now about taking all your cares and anxieties to God, as well as relying on Him to give you supernatural peace, strength, patience, joy, etc. in trying times. Practice leaning on the Lord for every big or small thing now, and you will be better equipped for when you become a mother. 

• Homemaker: The amount of talents, skills, mindsets, and abilities that can serve you and your family well as a homemaker are innumerable. You will never stop gaining knowledge and learning new skills once you become a homemaker, but it will serve you well to start as early as possible. Also it is worth noting, whether you ever become a wife and mother is not a definite given. However, you will take care of a home one day, and whether it’s a home full of little ones, or a home all to yourself, you will benefit from cultivating these skills that save you time and money and help you to be a more independent and well-rounded woman.

  • Learn to cook and bake, and to do it confidently. There isn’t a more prominent task as a homemaker than making sure your family is fed and nourished. Learn the difference between making a quick meal and truly nourishing your body with whole foods that are sourced and prepared well. Discover the joy that cooking and baking can be! It wasn’t until I was in college that I began learning how to cook. It’s not difficult to find and follow a recipe. If you desire to gain a lot of knowledge in the kitchen, seek out an older woman in your life and shadow her in her kitchen. This is how I learned more about gardening and canning. Of course, Pinterest and Youtube are also helpful modern resources for learning to cook and getting ideas for meals. I could say so much about this one area because intertwined in cooking and baking are a million different skills such as meal planning, making bread, canning, gardening, fermenting, medicine, nutrition, etc. Perhaps I will do a separate blog post regarding growing your skills in the kitchen.

  • Create rhythms in your life for cleaning and being organized. These can and will change over the years, but it’s important to discover the value of establishing good habits and rituals that teach you to be diligent and tidy. Your future home will thrive in order, cleanliness, and peace when you learn to manage it well. Perhaps try implementing small habits one at a time until they become second nature to you. Try a load of laundry a day (or however often it needs to be done to avoid pile ups), clean the kitchen as you cook, make your bed first thing in the morning, do 5 min pick ups throughout the day to minimize the mess, have a deep cleaning schedule for different rooms in your home, etc. As a homemaker, your job is to make or manage your home well, so this is an important area to grow in as early as possible.

  • Practice hospitality! Opening your doors to others is a wonderful part of homemaking. Even if you don’t know anything about being a “host with the most”, just simply have friends over for a game night, invite someone over for dinner, host a Bible study once a week, or open your doors to family members who need somewhere to stay. You want your home to be a light to others and a haven of rest and joy to outsiders. 

  • Learn practical skills that will serve your home, family, and finances well for life. Before you’re a full-time wife, mom, or homemaker is the best time to pour your free time into learning skills that you will benefit you down the road. There are so many things I wish I would have pursued and invested my time and energy into long before getting married, but every day is a new opportunity to grow and learn even if you didn’t get a headstart in these areas. I encourage you to first learn the skills you're deeply interested in or that intrigue you. Then perhaps move on to skills that you may not be inclined to, but that will serve you well to pursue. Some practical skills are sewing/mending, knitting/crocheting, crafting, playing an instrument, gardening, budgeting, renovating/restoring, cooking/baking, caring for animals, making tinctures/medicine, preparing things from scratch, scrapbooking, decorating, etc. Learning new skills will make you a more well-rounded and proficient homemaker.

  • Practice gratitude daily and count your blessings. You don’t want ungratefulness, envy, or self-pity to steal your joy now or in the future. Homemaking can be monotonous, sometimes you are alone most of the week, tasks can feel endless. It is so important to have a heart full of gratitude towards God for the blessings of our homes, food to prepare and eat, laundry to do, and messes that are evidence of a well-loved home. Try to cultivate a positive mindset and a heart that is focused on eternity and glorifying God while you go about your day. A truly joyful homemaker isn’t one that has everything done for her, has the nicest and newest things, never experiences discomfort, or doesn’t have to do things she doesn't want to do. A truly joyful homemaker is one that finds beauty in the mundane, praises God for the life He’s blessed her with, is grateful for what she has now, selflessly serves others, and laughs at the days to come. 

I hope this encourages you to be diligent in making yourself ready for what God may have in store for you. Being a wife, mother, or homemaker are noble tasks, and they take hard work and dedication on your part. I believe that it’s never too late to begin preparing yourself in regards to these areas of life. Be blessed and proactively wait upon the Lord. I’m glad you’re here, friend!

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11